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Jean Atman is a Consciousness Coach and Quantum Healer. Her greatest joy is to spark awakening and facilitate deep level healing in the collective. She has been called to reach beyond her beloved practice and is on a mission to assist in the ascension process at a grander scale.
Jean is passionate about sharing her wisdom, tips, and tools that have proven to be the most effective in influencing her journey as well as for her clients!
We begin by discussing Jean’s journey towards her practice and how she was born into a tumultuous life with a lot of toxicity. When you are dealing with that and a lot of this type of energy you develop a particular belief system about how the world works and how you are loved. As she was growing up, she realized that life didn’t feel good and found herself having a lot of struggles.
At this point, she felt that there should be more to life and it didn’t need to contain so much darkness! Jean feels that she was meant to walk through the darkness and find the light! She then took a deep dive into herself and what she was creating and how she was taking responsibility for the creation of her life around her.
Jean has spent decades unearthing and unpacking all the old belief systems that she grew up around and began shifting them into something she preferred instead. Her process was working with the mental and emotional aspects of these beliefs and their triggers.
In the old paradigm, we often believe that our shadow parts are scary and that we should be afraid of going into that place. Jean says that once we recognize that the fear inside of ourselves are pieces that need nurturing, love and compassion then it’s easier to make that transition and go inside. Jean shares that she began to go on retreats and take time to be with herself and create a sacred space to rest and listen.
For Jean, her meditation practice was what helped her to learn about herself. She shares that when you can be present within yourself that you can gain access to all sorts of places that are typically hidden or ignored because of the busyness of life. We talk more about Jean’s meditation practice and how that’s such an important part of her life and through the years she has learned that she’s not alone when mediating.
We discuss her practice of energy healing and how when you start to clear your field and decongest, you allow something else to come in which can be transformational. At this point, we can choose something better in a higher vibrational aspect for ourselves.
Jean shares with us how she helps her community to be a consciousness creator! She shares how she dives into limiting beliefs and triggers as information. It’s important that as this information comes in and creates a discomfort that we do not stuff it down or deflect it but learn to be comfortable with the discomfort and ask ”what is that within you” and what’s being triggered right now. All those uncomfortable feelings are a wound that’s being poked and prodded to say “I’m here and I am needing something from you” When we take that deep dive to see what that is we can unearth it, nurture, and start to clear those feelings. Once you no longer carry that around within you then it’s a healed space.
Jean believes that we can become conscious of how we are creating our worlds and once you start to heal those things and start choosing something different for yourself you are in a healed place.
We discuss what it really means to rest and restore the body which is so important to have this transformation. Jean shares that it’s not just the typical “go to bed” rest. That’s just the basics! We get so busy with all the external moving parts of the world that we need to give ourselves permission to “pause”. Be in the stillness. We need to stop the momentum and check-in with ourselves. At that point, we can ask ourselves how we are feeling about ourselves or a situation and feel the discomfort. Then perhaps if we need to shift our path we, can feel that and make those slight changes.
Jean shares her insight on how to begin and nurture a mediation practice which is very helpful for those beginning or needing to understand how to acknowledge those thoughts that may creep in while taking that pause. She shares that there is no failing or succeeding in meditation that it’s just practice! Be kind to yourself!
Jean offers a course to her community: Limitless which is a foundational shift for people! The first portion of the course work is to challenge the foundation of what’s not working in your world. You talk about limiting beliefs, triggers, the inner critic, and all those pieces that are working against you. Once you recognize what is not working then you can begin to make the shift. Jean also includes mindfulness practices, journaling exercises, and prompts so you can get into your inner world. She also offers community-guided healings. By moving that energy out then you can feel lighter and choose something different and better for yourself. The second part of the course is focusing on the aspects of money, relationships, health, vitality, and the gift of receiving. After you’ve had the opportunity to build a new foundation then you can align the other aspects of your life!
Dyna Vink is a certified health and nutrition coach who refused to give in after her doctor, dietician, and trainer gave ineffective advice on how to navigate perimenopause. She now coaches women through her site Holistic Nutrition Lifestyle
Dyna started her journey as a director of marketing with several high-tech companies over the years. She had what some may consider a dream job. But in her thirties started to stumble which affected her confidence and belief in herself. Different symptoms started coming up and she didn’t know what to make of them and hadn’t connected the dots to the “change in life”. Dyna shares with us those symptoms that she was experiencing and how she was working on her own towards trying to find a “magic pill”. Even at her annual check-up, the doctor proceeded to fat-shame her and prescribed a crazy diet of processed foods. She knew that this was not the path to gaining back her overall health.
It was after consulting her doctor, trainer, and dietician that she started to dive into reading women’s aging literature so that she could understand what was going on with her mind and body. She started to make some small changes and focused on a lifestyle approach after all the other exhaustive options.
It was after her journey, research, and education that Dyna felt that she would like to become a health and nutrition coach so that she could help other women through this challenge. Dyna feels that we should be talking more about perimenopause and menopause in our daily lives. It’s nothing to be shameful about. She makes herself available through coaching and education.
We discuss how Dyna intakes a new client and how every client’s situation is handled uniquely and there is no “cookie-cutter” approach. Dyan’s focus is a lifestyle approach and to think of food as medicine.
Food is one of Dyna’s first pillars that she focuses on because it’s so important to our overall well-being and the good news is that this is something that we can control. If we can control the way we eat and resolve some symptoms and problems like inflammation, bloating, joint pain, brain fog, and sleep then it’s a big win for our overall health and well-being.
Another pillar that Dyna focuses on with her clients is quality sleep. Many women come to her stating that they are having issues with weight gain and one of the first questions is, are you getting enough sleep? Sleep is not only vital to your physical health but to your overall weight loss. If you don’t get enough sleep then your cortisol levels go up and that’s a stress hormone that over time can be very toxic to the body. If you can’t get proper sleep then your body can’t perform the general maintenance of removing dead cells and rebuilding tissues.
Dyna makes available on her website an article: Eleven Foods Ladies in Peri-menopause should never eat. I will go ahead and put a link to this article in the show notes!
We discuss exercising for health and exercising for weight loss and how that affects women in perimenopause and menopause. Dyna also shares a client success story which is a great reminder of how we treat our overall health and wellbeing.
So what about the women who are listening that have already gone through the menopause journey and are on the other side? What should we be concerned about moving forward? Dyna shares that a focus on bone and muscle strengthening is very important as we get older and we should not let this area of our practice slide. And please don’t forget to work on your balance! There are many practices and exercises she shares that can help us to stay focused on keeping this an area for commitment.
Dyna closes by leaving the listeners with a challenge and tips on being successful. Are you ready to take her up on this for a short period of time? I know that I have been focusing on her challenge and already seeing some changes in my overall health and well-being.
Lesleigh Tolin is an advanced Grief Recovery Specialist. She has twelve years of professional hospice experience and it has been a dream to help others with end-of-life challenges having experienced an inordinate amount of loss on her own. It’s now her personal mission to work with adults internationally who have been impacted by emotional loss either current or past to transform their pain into power. Her Grief Recovery Method is the only evidence and action-based program for healing from grief in our nation.
Lesleigh shares that at the start of her journey, she was dealing with her grief by seeking out different coping skills but it was after being introduced to the method that she uses today with her clients that her life was changed. She was able to process the pain. It was then that she wanted to give back and began teaching this method to others. Lesleigh now serves her community internationally!
We discuss that as women in midlife we have walked quite a journey and perhaps when first reaching out to a grief specialist, they may be coming for one instance but in the end, there may be a discovery of more underlying grief that has not yet been acknowledged. Lesleigh shares a great analogy of wearing a backpack when you are born and through the years accumulating more grief and putting it away until finally you are unable to deal with the amount of grief and need to seek help.
Lesleigh walks us through the definitions of grief:
Grief is the natural and reaction to loss.
Grief is the conflicting mass of emotions that we each feel when anything familiar changes
Grief is reaching out to someone who has always been there for us and they are no longer there for us ( either physically or emotionally )
When grieving, it doesn’t always need to be about something sad. It can also be about something good.
Lesleigh makes sure that each of her clients they feel that they feel safe, seen, and secure in their heart-to-heart discussions each week. It’s a place where they can communicate about those lost expectations, hopes, or dreams.
We discuss the six common myths in our culture surrounding grief and our conversation highlights all six of the myths. One common myth is “give it time”. Lesleigh gives a wonderful explanation as to how time does not heal grief and that action within time heals. Not just time it’s action within time.
Lesleigh goes on to share how to comfort someone when you don’t know what to say at the moment when someone you love is grieving. It’s simple but effective and will speak from your heart.
Lesleigh’s introductory program is an eight-week program in which she leads 1:1 support and a book from John James: The Greif Recovery Handbook. The client would receive the book, worksheets and then meet weekly with Lesliegh to begin walking together on this journey. This is a structured, compassionate and experiential process that has therapeutic effects. At the end of eight weeks, you have an emotional toolbox so they can process any future loss.
We discuss the importance of doing this work with a guide because it can be stressful, exciting, and challenging. Lesleigh is there for you each week and in-between sessions so if something comes up and you need support she will be there for you to process your thoughts and emotions.
Lesleigh goes on to share a client’s story and how they were able to transform their life by going through this process. It’s a beautiful story and is a testimte to her work with others.
Lesleigh found this calling at the age of seventy! She believes in youth- ing and not aging and we continue to discuss those stories that women may tell themselves in midlife that they are “too old” to try something new and find their passion and purpose in life!
It’s never too late to begin a journey that’s expressive of your heart! There is only this moment and life is short!
Today be prepared to be inspired! My conversation this week is with my client: Julia Schmidt who this year completed her eight-week coaching experience.
Julia came to me needing some help in a career search but what she gained were a new career, increased self-confidence, and a completely new mindset!
In our interview, she shares with the listeners
- Where she was at in the beginning of her career search and how that felt and the stories she told herself about her work/life experience and capabilities. Her thoughts on what she felt she was qualified for in a search and how she was limiting herself and her full potential.
- What the coaching process looked like for her and how she worked through the Passion and Purpose Workbook while working towards her career search. She shares how the combination of self-exploration with career coaching homework proved to be a valuable exercise for her journey. This is not just a career coaching journey! You are stepping into the opportunity to learn more about yourself and how your thoughts and emotions drive your actions and create your results!
- Why she picked a coach to work with and how this experience was different from other 1:1 experiences
- How her mindset has shifted in her ability to take on new challenges
- Where she is at right now in her new job and how she is showing up differently each day!
- Her advice to any woman over forty who is on the fence about working with a coach
- What the process looked like for her when reaching out for coaching and why she would recommend it to others.
Julia is living her dream life and you can as well! I believe that we are the author of our next chapter and that in less than eight weeks, you can transform your life!
If you are on the fence on your next steps and lack the confidence to move forward, I invite you to reach out to me for your free 60 minutes Clarity Session so you can discover what is holding you back from your dream career!
This is an exciting process and you will be coached during this sixty-minute call and know in the end if you are ready to move forward! You can apply for a Clarity Session through the link in the show notes!
Sharon Valenti’s thirst for knowledge led her to spend time in various places around the U.S., as well as a journey throughout India and the shores and villages of Indonesia. Consistently pursuing her own awakening, she is motivated to help others do the “work” and seek a shift within themselves. In this podcast, we are talking about mastering your thoughts and emotions!
Sharon shares that in her past growing up she experienced a lot of physical, mental, emotional, and sexual abuse. But through her work, she has acknowledged that each of these moments of trauma in her life served a purpose. She feels it makes her more empathetic to others who have walked that same road. Sharon considers herself a success story because she chooses not to stay in a victim mindset. Now she can offer that same help to others.
During our discussion, Sharon shares that what moved her forward to finding the peace and joy in her life was when she recognized that she was blaming everybody else for what was going on in herself and not taking responsibility. She then learned how to question the stories that she was creating. Each time she was triggered by someone she taught herself to “get still” and find out what was the belief she had going on about herself that triggered those feelings. Sharon gives some great examples about how when we are younger some experiences can lead us to believe things are really not true about ourselves. Sharon found that when she stopped arguing with reality, then the peacefulness in her life began to take root.
Sharon goes on to share that there are three types of Business
- My Business
- Your Business
- The Divine’s Business
When we are in our “own business” then we are showing confidence in ourselves. We ultimately raise our energy. In our conversation, Sharon gives some great examples on this scenario. It’s up to us to train our minds and body to stay in our business.
It’s important that we seek validation within ourselves and not look to other people to give us that reinforcement and raise our energy vibration.
Sharon also shares how she stays in the present moment so she is aware of the true reality of the situation. She gives some great tips on how to train your mind to do that very thing! We are told to stay in the present moment but we are never taught.
We discuss staying in our own business and Sharon shares a great mantra: How do I know it should have happened? Because it did. When you embrace that you realize that the past has already happened and you don’t keep revisiting it in your mind. It only causes pain to keep arguing with reality.
Sharon encourages us all to show up and question what people say about us and if it’s true. We don’t need to prove anything to anybody. Just simply being alive is enough. How are you uplifting yourself with positive information and people? When you start to surround yourself with positivity in your life, the negative people will drop off.
Remember to question those underlying beliefs. Are they really true and whose beliefs are they anyway? Be careful, you may be carrying around someone else’s belief.
Hope Kelaher is a therapist who has extensive training in relational and systematic therapy. Her passion is helping those who are struggling with anxiety and depression find healing connections among family and friends. Hope is the author of Here to Make Friends. How to make friends as an Adult
Hope begins by sharing that two years ago she was supporting a close family member who got preoccupied with working and taking care of their family and woke up one morning and felt anxious and depressed about the loss and lack of connections in their life. Being a relational and systemic therapist, this is something she sees quite often in her practice. During this process, Ulysses press reached out to her and asked what she thought about writing a book and so the journey continued. She saw this as a sign and went all in. This is a short book with nuggets of good reminders for those that are invested in building out a greater community of life for themselves.
Reflecting back on writing the book, Hope learned that it’s ok to have different types of friendships who are in your networkand can give you what you need. We all cannot be everything to everybody at the same time. It is important to examine when you do need support around relationships or finances and that you recognize who it is that you can turn to for that support. A friend may be a strength to you in one area and perhaps not another.
It seems that life priorities have a way of getting in the way of us taking the initiative to cultivate new friendships. Hope reminds us that we can’t always rely on that friend being there and that the relationship needs to take ownership from both sides. She has seen in her practice that sometimes we underestimate the amount of work it takes to maintain a good relationship.
We discuss creating authentic friendships and how being vulnerable, having reciprocity and healthy conflict resolution is key. Hope shares examples of this from her own life which is very helpful.
Hope shares what she views as a “soulmate friendship” which is different than a friendship of utility and pleasure. As friends, you are serving a purpose in each other’s life. You are not just liking a post on Facebook. You show up differently and bring to the relationship different a different type of vulnerability.
We discuss that cultivating new friendships is almost like dating and we need to be open to giving people a chance and putting ourselves out there in social opportunities which can be hard for those that may suffer from social anxiety. Hope gives some tips on how to manage these types of situations. We discuss different platforms that are available for people that want to connect and meet new people which may be a great possibility for you to explore!
Keep in mind that when you put yourself out there to make a connection and it doesn’t work for some reason, please remember that many times it may not have anything to do with you. They may just be unavailable to be open at that time. Don’t take it personally! Hope reminds us that like dating, you need to cast a wide net.
Hope shares that her book is collaborative and she is hopeful that people can reflect on their own relationships and the way they show up. There are a number of exercises that people can pick and choose from throughout the book. Her goal was to have concrete exercises that people could access and be able to check-in with themselves. Hope shares a couple of the exercises that she likes in the book that you may want to try yourself.
This is a great conversation that will help you to access your friendships and how you are showing up for others and what you may need from others in the future!