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For more than four years, Pam Lamp has explored one new thing every single day! On her website, Who I met today, she writes about these discoveries and the wonderful people she’s met along the way. Pam loves a good book, the beach, and is an animal person. Pam lives in Nashville with her husband.
Pam shares that her journey began back when her kids were grown and she and her husband moved from Houston, Texas after twenty years to Nashville. This happened in her late fifties and she found the move a difficult adjustment. It was one morning where she thought that she would get up every morning and do one new thing every single day! She hoped that by doing this that she would meet new people and create a sense of community. At the time, she didn’t know where this would take her but she thought that she needed to get out there and get involved! For Pam, a new job was not in the cards as she wanted to be available to her elderly parents and her kids were in different cities so she wanted flexibility in her life!
She started by reading local magazines and Googling different things to do and she created her list! The items to do each day didn’t have to be big events! Some days she would go take a walk in the park or check out a bookstore. What Pam found is that it gave her something to talk about at the dinner table with her husband and her world expanded!
One day, Pam’s husband asked, “if you could do anything, what would you want to do?” Pam replied that she wanted to meet people and write up their stories! He then said, “why don’t you do it?” So in 2017, she started her website and began telling her story! For Pam, this has been the biggest gift of her life.
Pam shares how she didn’t have a plan and was scared to death! She shares about her first interview where she faced her fear and not only had a great conversation but had the time of her life! She shares how she tackled those limiting beliefs that can come up for us when we are trying something new. For Pam, she focused on taking that next step. She has also developed a “thicker skin” for putting herself out there to ask for interviews but she still gets a bit fearful but the more interviews she completes she is getting more comfortable and confident!
How does Pam decide who she interviews? It’s all about being curious! If she is curious about a topic or someone then that’s the direction she heads and Pam shares a couple of examples in our interview. She does focus on positive stories as she feels there is enough negativity in the world. Pam also shares some of her stories on her blog and people she has on her list to ask in the future!
Pam has created a series called the Orchid Series which are articles about women who are over 75 years young! The common thread that Pam has found in writing their stories is that finding your purpose is so important and keeping engaged with something as you get older is key.
She also shares what is was like at the beginning of her journey when she created her website and was vulnerable in the process of sharing her writing and stories. For a lot of women, they have a book of stories to share and this can be a hurdle that needs to be overcome by looking at the mindset, and Pam shares what worked for her. She also shares overcoming the technical hurdle in creating a website.
Pam shares what she has learned about herself through her journey, “ You need to make yourself happy. You can’t rely on other people to make you happy.” She is also less anxious having a passion and something she can not wait to get up and do in the morning. Pam finds that if she focuses on doing the next right thing then you don’t have to worry so much about the outcome and the “what if’s”.
Rachel Arbuckle is a Navy Veteran, wife, mom, and founder of 2000 Paces Photo Organizing. After a series of fires forced her family to evacuate and leave behind photo memories that were scattered throughout their home, Rachel was motivated to help others spend less time worrying about organizing and protecting their memories and more time making them.
In 2014, a series of fierce fires roared through San Diego County, the largest of which started on the mountain just behind Rachel’s home. She had only minutes to grab a few items. Her instinct was to gather all of our photos, but she panicked when she realized her precious memories were all over the home in boxes, picture frames, and albums. She ended up grabbing what she could as her family headed to safety.
After many days of worry, she was able to return home to the memories we had to leave behind. Thankfully, her home was spared, but others in our community were not as fortunate.
This experience not only solidified her commitment to protecting her family’s collection of photos but prompted her to found 2000 Paces Photo Organizing, encouraging people to organize and protect important memories.
After the fire, Rachel came back home and followed through on her commitment to getting her family’s photo memories organized and then ultimately left corporate America to start her own business. This was an unexpected turn of events and for her at some point was terrifying. She continued to focus on what she could accomplish for other people! What are their needs, what solutions do we need to make sure that we care about servicing them the way they need to be. Then one day after a lot of hard work, she realized that she was creating a successful business! It was from there that her business began to develop and she needed to learn more about the managing of the business.
We dive into the process of what to do with all these photos that are either in albums or boxes! Rachel recommends starting by putting everything in one place and taking an inventory of what you have on hand. Pull everything out of every nook and cranny! She reminds us that it took years to create all these memories and they are not going to get organized overnight! Take a look and weed out the duplicates and then the photos where you don’t know who the people are in the photo! Then ask yourself, What are your goals with your photos? What do I want to accomplish?
Rachel shares with us the unique approach her team takes with every client to ensure that your photos are handled with care and they are meeting your goals. How they may organize your photos may be different from how mine would be organized. There is a consult and interview process to make sure that you are creating a relationship with the person who will be handling your job.
We discuss some stories about work she has done for other clients over the years and share that a lot of her clients will say, “I wish I had asked my mom about these pictures sooner” We always think there is more time. More time to ask, more time to organize, and more time to share.
Rachel gives us permission to throw out those photos where we don’t remember who the people are or the event was not significant to us. ( That’s why it’s so important to ask questions now while those that are still with us can share about those memories )
All of Rachel’s employees are trained through a specific process and handle a mock project prior to taking on a client. When you go to engage with them you are assigned a photo manager so there is one person who is rocking on your project through the entire process.
I ask Rachel how leaving corporate America and forming this business has changed her life! She says it’s hard to remember what her life was like before she started her company. It’s something she and her team have created and that she is proud of their accomplishments! For her, it’s exciting to be a business owner but at the same time, there is a huge responsibility as people are counting on you. Not only the employees but their families.
Rachel loves mentoring and providing feedback to her team. At some point, we all need to work so why not be working at something we love? She is now working harder than she did in her corporate job but it’s something she is passionate about and she is having fun while making an impact!
Samantha Coffin is a wellness and mindset coach focused on helping women go from a life full of symptoms to a life full of living. As a child, Samantha personally struggles with health and wellness. She reminds us that if you don’t prioritize your wellness now then you’ll be forced to prioritize your illness later! Samantha’s website is called the Wellness Rewind where she offers 1:1 Wellness supports, offers great articles, recipes, and your personal guide to wellness.
Samantha is returning guests to the show and we dive into her story about her health journey and how she turned her pain of being sick to seeking the solutions for herself into providing to support for others so they would not need to go through her same pain. She started to learn to heal her own body at the age of eighteen. Instead of surviving, she wanted to thrive and took matters into her own hands! She then began to reach out to help friends and family with their own health issues and gain the confidence to help others. But it didn’t come with tackling a lot of mindset issues and the dreaded imposter syndrome! It’s been a rewarding journey and now she sees not only how her coaching helps her client but how it impacts their families and carries through to other people they touch!
We discuss the commonly known story of when the flight attendant says that you need to put your oxygen mask on first so that you can be there to help others. If we don’t put on our mask first we can’t help others and then we all suffer. We also need to fill our cup so it will overflow and help others! That’s why it’s so important and not selfish to focus on ourselves. We also need to realize that our children and grandchildren are watching our moves so when we begin to take care of our needs and see that we are nourished mentally and physically then they will do the same.
So how do we want to show up in the new year? How do I want to be taking care of my health and nurturing my mind, body, and spirit? We discuss how this time of year we are bombarded by messages in the media about what we “should” be working on but it’s a good time to ask ourselves if we what we are being “expected” to work on algin with our values and do they really matter to you?
The first question to ask is
What do you really want and WHY do you want it?
Take the time to sit and answer what can sometimes be a difficult question to answer.
We jump into changing our frame of mind and thinking of not making a RESOLUTION which is a firm decision not to do something which doesn’t sound like a very fun way to start the new year to thinking of it as INTENTIONS which is how do I intend to live. An intention is how I intend to aim or plan. It helps us to focus more on progressing as a human over a perfection mindset that you might get with a resolution!
We talk about the process of setting goals and discuss SMART Goals. Goals that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timebound. We talk about setting a weight loss goal and how we may want to look at breaking it down so that you have actionable steps that can be measured and attained so you can see your progress and feel empowered!
Our discussion turns to uncover your WHY so that you are clear as to why this goal is so important to you. As you work towards your goal, there will be challenging moments and it’s important to have it written down so that you can remind yourself when the going gets tough!
When choosing a goal here’s a tip! When you think about it does it make you feel alive and excited? Are you feeling excited to do it or are you filled with dread? If you are dreading it, then let’s find a different goal!
Perhaps you would prefer not to set a goal but do something a bit more creative? Here are some ideas we discuss:
A Monthly Theme for the month based on your intention
A Word for the Year
A Bucket List
22 things to do in 2022.
How can we remind ourselves of our goals or micro-goals?
A-List to check off
Putting our micro goals on a sheet of paper in a jar and taking one out to do each month.
Post-it note reminders!
This will help us when we don’t feel aligned and need some additional support!
We also talk about ACCOUNTABILITY
Who is going to hold you accountable? Is it a friend, coach, family member? Be sure you take the time to pick your accountability partner and have a set time for check-in points to discuss your success and celebrate!
Be sure to revisit your goals!
Take some time mid-year to revisit if these goals you set at the beginning of the year still resonate and are worthy of your attention! Sometimes our circumstances change and we need to acknowledge that this goal isn’t aligned to us anymore and it’s ok to let it go!
How do I want to feel this year? What are the steps that I need to prioritize in my life ( people, places, and things) so that I can achieve this feeling in my life!
If you are looking for some books to encourage you to help develop good habits, we discuss the following books
Atomic Habits by James Clear
Tiny Habits by BJ FOGG
We talk about how to create new habits and discuss how to look at the cue, routine, and reward! A perfect example is what you may or may not do when you walk through the door at the end of a long day! What do you first go to out of habit based on the cue of walking at the end of the day through the door? I share an example from my own life and how I changed the routine and the reward! And you can too!
Are you ready to take that first step and crack the door to new possibilities in the new year? I hope this episode will help you to pause and take the time to create a goal that is true and resonates with you in the new year! Happy New Year!
Jennifer and I discuss her book, Why Bother! Discover the Desire for What’s Next. Since it’s the end of the year, it’s the perfect time to stop, notice and celebrate the arising of the desire within yourself! This desire is what gives us the juice, courage, and inspiration to get over the fears that we often feel when we come to this place in our lives. Let’s take the time today to flip that question, Why bother into something positive! In my interview, we discuss the six steps of why bother!
JENNIFER LOUDEN is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the concept of self-care with her first bestseller, The Woman’s Comfort Book. Since then, she’s written six additional books on wellbeing and whole living, including The Woman’s Retreat Book and The Life Organizer, with close to a million copies of her books in print in nine languages. Jennifer has spoken around the U.S., Canada, and Europe, and has written a national magazine column for a Martha Stewart magazine. Plus, she’s been profiled or quoted in dozens of major magazines; two of Brené Brown’s books, Daring Greatly and Dare to Lead; and has appeared on hundreds of TVprograms, radio shows, and podcasts—even on Oprah. Jennifer has been teaching women’s retreats since 1992 and creating vibrant on-line communities and innovative learning experiences since 1999. She writes weekly to her email list of 20,000 and hosts an online paid community of over 600 members. She lives in Boulder, Colorado.
What You’ll Learn
How to go from Despair to the Desire for wanting more!
Steps to Why Bother
- Leave Behind- Examine the excuses we make!
- Ease In- Get the fire going. You matter and what you want matters! Take the time to turn towards yourself
- Settle In and Find the Stillness. At our core is peace and well-being. Unless we sit in the stillness we don’t know or hear what we want.
- Desire- Life is speaking to you. Allow yourself to feel that desire
- Become by Doing- You begin to experiment
- Be Seen- Be seen as your whole self
The Oasis Group with Jennifer
Jennifer’s Challenge for the listeners!
Katharine Chestnut is the founder and CCO of Alkaloid Networks, a coworking space she founded in 2015. Over the past two decades, Katharine has navigated the realm of self-care, studying multiple wellness disciplines to support her own personal growth. Her new book, Inner Affirmations, is a testament to her practice of personal self-care and the kind of growth that comes from a mindful journaling routine.
Katharine’s journey started twenty years ago when she was introduced to her mentor, Sue Meyers who in her own right was a million-dollar realtor turned spiritual guide. Sue was teaching weekend workshops in the area and Katharine decided to attend. The focus at the workshop was on non-dominant handwriting.
When Katharine was introduced to this practice in the workshop, she was asked to write down her answers to a series of questions and you would write the answers with your dominant hand. Then 30 minutes later you would answer the same question but with your non-dominant hand and get a completely different answer!
After the workshop, Katharine did her research and found that using your non-dominant hand, helps you to slow down and be more mindful in your writing. You have to be very thoughtful about creating what you are writing as it’s not coming that easy! Because you are being more mindful and you have to slow down, your ego gets out of the way.
This may sound a bit strange, but when you’re using your dominant hand, you are writing what you should be feeling and thinking. This makes sense because your ego and logic are driving you. When you switch to the other side, your ego short-circuits a bit and quiets down so it can become authentic and what is true for you at your core.
When Katharine would analyze the answers to her questions with both hands, she was stunned. It really did resonate with her and the differences and similarities in her journaling. But the differences that she journaled were far more of the essence of what was true at her core.
Since that day, Katharine has been practicing non-dominant journaling as her main focus of practice!
Katharine offers every Monday morning at 9:30 am EASTERN on Insight Timer a weekly practice where you can participate. Check it out!
Years later while Katharine was journaling, she wrote down a word/ phrase that she wanted to continue to think about throughout the day so she wrote it on a piece of paper and stuck it in her pocket so she could look at it throughout the day. She wanted to refer back to it so she could come back to a place of calm and grounded throughout the day. Katharine would pull it out throughout the day, take a deep breath, and be able to go back into that space of calm that she desired. It was then that she started doing it more and after time she would be pulling out of her pocket these little affirmations!
It was those little slips of paper, often referred to Katharine as her “love notes to self” that became her book! Even to this day, she still writes down an affirmation and puts it in her pocket because it helps her to heal and focus on what’s true in her life.
If you go to Katherine’s website you can see her daily inner affirmation which you can write down for yourself and stick in your pocket!
Katharine began to put her marketing skills to work and began creating a brand for herself and her work so that she could begin to reach more people with teachings!
We discuss how to make daily affirmations a part of your daily routine and how to write affirmations that resonate with us which are true to our inner beliefs and desires! Katharine shares that it doesn’t need to be hard to access that place of calm and knowing and if you have a pen and piece of paper, you can do it from anywhere!
Katharine shares about her Sunday evening routine which helps her to stay focused.
She asks the questions
How did my week go?
What did I plan to do?
What could have gone better?
How do I want to feed my spirit and soul this week?
From there she is more mindful about heading into the next week with an intention for herself
Katharine will be creating some new content that will be available to her community in 2022 so I invite you to go over and check out her website at the link below!
Melissa Houston is a CPA and Financial strategist for CEO’s. Melissa helps successful business owners increase their profit margins so they can keep more money in their pocket and increase their net worth! Melissa is a columnist at Forbes.com and the host of The Business Society Podcast
Melissa started her journey as a social worker and worked in that sector for five years and realized that long-term it may not be the best fit for her. She then went back to school and chose to account as it was the “responsible, reliable choice” but then realized that something was missing and that was her interaction with people! It was at that time that she decided to go out on her own and combine her social working skills with her in-depth knowledge of money! For Melissa, it’s wonderful to be able to help women entrepreneurs in every aspect of their business to ensure that they are setting their business up for financial success!
There was a period of about a decade where Melissa suppressed her feelings of wanting to go into business for herself. Suppressing and not dealing with her feelings meant they came out in other ways and self-sabotage ensued. She ended up being in a situation where she was spending money recklessly to make herself feel better about what was lacking in her life. She continues to share this season with us and the impact that it had on herself and her marriage. At that point she stopped and took a look at herself and that she was not being true to herself. Melissa learned a lot about herself during this experience which helps her assist other women in a non-judgemental approach. She’s been there and done that! Messing up and feeling shame doesn’t define who you are, it’s just part of the experience! Melissa was in her late forties when she made this pivot in her career so it’s never too late!
In our conversation we dive into, How do I even know if I need a money coach? A lot of that surrounds knowing if your business is profitable or not. So often business owners will only evaluate their business on how much money they have coming in the door. So if you don’t know if you are profitable or if you don’t have a financial plan for your business moving forward then you are a business without a direction.
The purpose of being in business is to make a profit and if you are not operating at a profit eventually you will go bankrupt. Sadly 82% of businesses fail due to being financially mismanaged. If you can understand how to manage your finances you can eliminate so much of that problem!
Let’s say you are ready to hire a financial business coach! You may be wondering what it is you need to think about? How do you know if you are picking the right team member? We dive into all those things that you will want to consider moving forward.
Melissa also shares some of the limiting beliefs she hears from her clients and how your mindset around money and your business is so important! This is a big part of her offering to be a financial expert and coach. We dive into discussing some of these beliefs and new ways of looking at yourself and your business!
We discuss so many other topics as it relates to running a business! There are lots of valuable nuggets in this podcast! Melissa also shares advice on how she works with an entrepreneur who has been in business but never paid herself! She reminds the listeners that what you are doing is not a hobby and that you need to have in your budget to pay yourself! Melissa also shares the number one mistake that women entrepreneurs make and that is not understanding your numbers.
What is the secret equation to running a successful business? Bringing in those sales and knowing how to manage your money!
Melissa offers both 1:1 Coaching and her Confident Cash Method on her website. The Confident Cash Method is a five-step framework that she takes her clients through. This process gives you a high level of understanding of your business so you can make smart and informed decisions that are going to make your business profitable.